Moving Past Your Own Resistance To Change
What keeps you from the things that make your life worth living?
One of the most puzzling paradoxes of the human organism is the way we resist not only lifeâ€™s difficulties but also lifeâ€™s potential sweetness. I notice it in students and certainly in myself: the subtle tendency to hold back from anything that changes the balance in our lives. We donâ€™t just resist something unpleasant, like working with a difficult health issue or recognizing the need to leave a job. We often have a strange resistance to, say, getting a massage or opening fully to a friend or lover, or, especially, allowing an emerging state of inner expansionâ€”even when we sense that weâ€™re cutting ourselves off from something great.
Kempton goes on to explain several scenarios of resistance that we all might face, and outlines ways to move past it through inner awareness and meditation. Her insights remind us of a core tenet in our philosophy, which says, “Be open. Change happens when itâ€™s invited.” You never know. Leaning into your own resistance may unlock your mind in ways you have never anticipated.