“My father used to encourage us to fail when we were younger. We would sit at the dinner table and he would ask us what we had failed at that week, and if we didn’t have anything, he would be disappointed. It was one of the biggest gifts in my life…”
Sara Blakely, founder of Spanx
I recently read this quote in makeup artist Bobbi Brown’s new book, Pretty Powerful, and thought this idea must be responsible for Blakely’s success as an entrepreneur. Blakely goes on to share that to her, failing meant she was “constantly pushing [her]self out of the box and trying new things.” To Blakely, the real failure (as the rest of us would define it) would be if she didn’t try something because she was too afraid. This is a great perspective everyone should try to embrace.
Another interesting take on failure comes from author, entrepreneur and Stanford professor Tina Seelig, who has her students create a failure resume. The idea is to make the students acknowledge what they’ve learned from the mistakes they’ve made in their lives. Seelig points out that people move forward in their lives because they’ve got experience. And experience comes from what you learn. So, she says, try lots of things, keep what works, learn from what doesn’t and use that experience to your advantage.
Still afraid of failure? Make a game out of it.
Rejection Therapy has one rule: you must be rejected by another person, at least once, every day. The idea is to push past your fears of rejection and take a chance on what might come of taking a risk. In other words, the game teaches you to embrace failure (playing cards available here). Wonder if Blakely’s father had anything to do with the making of this game?
How often are you failing? Are you pushing yourself to the limit and testing new ideas consistently? What’s on your failure resume?
Please leave comments below and share your tactics for overcoming the fear of failure.