Shivani Karia recently embarked on her own grey journey. She’s sharing each step with the LITG community. This week, Shivani shares the importance of having confidence in yourself and the power of a support system.
Wow. Before I start my post for this week, I just wanted to express an enormous amount of gratitude to everyone. The response I got back after sharing my post, something that I was initially so hesitant and scared to do, was incredible and not at all what I was expecting.
People texted, emailed, IM’ed, and talked to me about how impressed and how proud they were of the risky step I’d taken. It made me realize just how blessed I am to have friends and family by my side who support me 100%. In a way, it’s almost reassuring because I know that no matter what happens, I will have everyone’s support and encouragement to push me to brush myself off and get right back up and try again.
Through this, I’ve realized that having that support is so crucial when taking a big, risky step. You see, when taking a step out into the grey and the unknown, I’ve realized that having confidence in yourself and your choices is one of the, if not the, most important thing.
Stepping into the grey isn’t something you do for the heck of it. You’re doing it for a reason, or reasons, close to your heart. You’re doing it to experience all the uncertainty and excitement that life’s journey holds for you. You’re doing it to go through life living, not just to get up every morning, go through the same daily routine and do the same thing the next day. Whatever your reasons, you need to be confident in your choices. The grey, the unknown, it’s not going to be easy. It’s going to push you down. It’s going to attempt to break you. It’s going to make you question yourself.
But it’s also going to give you the most exciting, invigorating, life-changing moments of your life. To get through those steep bumps in the road, though, having the confidence in your decisions and in yourself and ignoring the voices that say “You’re making a HUGE mistake” is what you have to be strong enough to do.
For me, having that support system has been so vital because I have questioned myself, my decisions and what I’m doing. I’ve questioned whether quitting such an awesome job was the right thing to do. I’ve questioned it because it wasn’t the normal, straight-edged route to take, the route that I’ve seen many of my peers take or that I’m so accustomed to. My support system, though, trusted my decisions when I stopped trusting. They realized what I was failing to see in that moment and in turn, made me remember why I was choosing to live in the grey. They gave me back my confidence.
My support system is filled with my closest family members living all around the world. It’s filled with my very fabulous and amazing best friends from high school and college. It’s filled with my co-workers who have quickly grown to become my very, very good friends. I may have taken the biggest step of my life a couple months ago without consulting anyone and asking for their thoughts and what their professional opinion is, but since then, I couldn’t be prouder of my decision and it’s because of my support system.
There just aren’t enough words in the dictionary for me to express my gratitude, but thank you. I won’t let me down but equally as important, I won’t let you down.
As far as who makes up your support system, it can be anybody! It can be your family, it can be your friends, it can be the cute little ol’ lady that always ends up sitting next to you on the bus. Heck, it can even be your pet! A support system isn’t always a person or a group of people. It can be your journal, it can be the Pinterest board you’ve created titled “Inspiration.” (Yep, guilty as charged..). Your support system is whatever makes you a better, happier person pushing through to live life the way it should be lived: where….well, I’ll leave it to you to fill in the grey!
Check out Shivani’s first live in the grey post here!